With this in mind, we came to the decision to have a small family soiree. For the wedding itself, we are renting a room in the Joseph Smith Memorial Building. It is very nice, and the rental fee for just a wedding is very reasonable. It can actually hold quite a few people. It also has a nice view of the temple, which we hope to get sealed in the near future.
Our options for the reception are to either spend a lot of money for an open house and have limited food and maximum stress in planning, or to take the immediate family (which on April's side is about 40 people) to a nice dinner. After much debate between hurting people's feelings and hurting our pocketbooks, we decided to do first option. Seeing as this is the second wedding for both of us, we are foregoing the pomp and circumstance of a big celebration.
Now we are trying to figure out if it's proper etiquette to invite people to the wedding and share in the moment with us, but without the reception. Or do we just say that it's for family only. Any thoughts??
5 comments:
Bob: When Steve and I married, we had a nice family "Wedding Dinner" the night before. It was a great celebration prior to the ceremony. I say do something of that sort, then invite the family and friends to the ceremony. It's okay to not have a reception or finger foods (save that money or spend it on a nice honeymoon). Then you are concentrating on the event itself, not all the pomp. That's my vote. Emi
I wish that we would have saved more money for our honeymoon and done a little less in the reception department. I think 2nd weddings can be more pared down and intimate. If you decide to invite everyone to the wedding, I would do a small reception after (just like desserts or something). Dinners are always a little awkward for me as you don't get to mix around and they can go on for a while. Good luck. I know it can be a headache, but the end result is so worth it. I bet your kids are excited. How fun to be part of everything.
I just remembered something. Do you remember Darren Nielsen from CV1. He got remarried this last summer I think and they just had family only for the wedding part and I think a dinner with the family. They then sent out announcements to everyone else saying that they were married. I thought that was a classy way to do a 2nd wedding without a lot of fan fare.
I like Emi's idea of the wedding dinner the night before and then the wedding being the main event on the day of. That way, you can invite anyone you want to the wedding and give hugs to everyone and leave. Your guests may want to do more together and they can - just not at your expense.
Thank you all for your comments. What we have decided to do is invite the family to a dinner, which will be on the same floor of the Joseph Smith Memorial Building as our ceremony.
We are also letting invited guests of the ceremony know our plans and invite them join us, but also let them know that they will be asked to pay for their own meal. So far we have let a handful of guests know this and they understand and have decided to join us.
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